Greetings from Paris! Oui, Paris! I am thrilled to be here preparing to celebrate a magical Thanksgiving week with my partner.
Travel is a huge motivator and pleasure for me, but I recently became aware of a huge breakdown I was having in relation to traveling.
In the past year, I hired a personal trainer and started working with her twice a week with additional workouts to complete between sessions.
I was doing really well with them until I had all this extra travel come up in the last two months, and my level of commitment started to wane.
Last week, I was getting nervous because I was preparing for my 8-week weigh-in and didn’t know what my results were going to look like. I was more nervous than I’d like to acknowledge because I knew that I hadn’t put in the necessary level of effort to reach my goals.
I got the results, and while I didn’t gain any weight during that 8-week stretch, I also didn’t lose it.
All that time and money, and I had stayed the same.
What my trainer said in response to my disappointment really struck me: Sometimes what you’re doing doesn’t make a difference, and you simply have to learn the impact of your choices and recommit to your goal in order to make it go differently.
But that night when I got home, I was feeling particularly annoyed about it and told my partner that I felt like a failure.
I’d been spending all this money, and I let circumstances get in the way. Yes, it was easy to justify and rationalize, but at the end of the day, the time or length of all my travels didn’t matter. What it came down to was the fact that I wasn’t all in and willing to do what it took to make it happen.
When there is something we really want, we have to be willing to be and do whatever it takes in order to get it.
Excuses can come so easily and sound so rational, but they’re still simply circumstances that we allow to get in the way of our commitments.
It’s not easy to see this pattern of breakdown while we’re in the midst of it.
Sometimes it takes NOT meeting our goals, failing at something, or having a missed step in order to see the impact of our actions and then be willing to be and do what it takes to create a different result.
What I noticed once again for myself in all of this is that my automatic response to goals that aren’t reached yet is saying that I’m a failure, that I’m not good enough. After all the work I’ve done around this, and still my subconscious likes to take over…
In turn, this labeling of myself as a failure was like holding a stop sign in front of my progress because I was no longer relating to myself compassionately and powerfully—instead of seeing my relationship with exercise as a an inspiring step toward my goals, I was letting it become an area of anxiety and beating myself up.
No wonder I wasn’t generating any results!
I saw that I simply had to change up the impact of my actions in order to be able to produce the results I wanted. I had to NOT let it make me a “failure” in order to be able to powerfully recommit to reaching my goal.
What a powerful learning opportunity for me in taking away the gold from my misstep, and recommitting to what I want…
I haven’t missed a day since seeing this and notice I’m choosing to relate to the whole situation differently.
It’s all about how you choose to relate to your goals.
What do you see in it for you to intentionally take the learning from your misstep and simply recommit?
To your unbounded potential,